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Harvest Moon 2016

Posted on September 16, 2016

This year I made “Harvest” moon a family affair. For the past 2 years I’ve always been by myself because the boys were too little to wait around until the moon rose, but this year I made “Harvest” moon a family affair. We read the children’s book “Hello, Harvest Moon” by Ralph Fletcher (an excellent read and one of our favorites). We then made our way to our nearby shopping center, since that’s the best vantage point near us and set up the tri-pod and camera. We tracked the moon with the Skyview app. (My boys and I love this app) and just waited for the moon to rise. I think I got a few good shots considering I had to zoom in because of the lights around the parking lot. The boys really enjoyed tracking the moon’s rising time and looking at it through the camera lens. Until, Oliver made it very clear that he was tired and wanted to go home, but all in all “Harvest” moon viewing with the family was the perfect way to spend this Friday night.

Olive Kitteridge

Posted on August 11, 2015

I found the following book at a book sale. If you are looking for something to read and/or watch, like to read stories set in Maine ( I know, I know I have a thing for Maine), enjoy reading novels broken up into short stories or like (I absolutely adore) the actress Frances McDormand then pick up Elizabeth Strout’s book, Olive Kitteridge. The book is really meaty with characters going through an array of life experiences and at the heart of the story is Olive Kitteridge. She is a force, and when I found out Frances McDormand was playing her in the miniseries, I really couldn’t see anyone else playing this role. She didn’t disappoint (not that she ever has). So if you read/see it, I hope you’ll enjoy it as much as I did.

Twists and turns…

Posted on May 15, 2012

On our Red Rock Canyon trip I kept hanging my head out of the car window while I snapped away at the scenery (Henry don’t try this at home). On one of the many twists and turns I managed to capture this photo. It’s my husband and mom’s favorite shot. When I came home and viewed it on the screen I couldn’t help but concur. It’s a keeper.

All photographs © Nareen Rivas

Book Review: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

Posted on May 8, 2012

In February I wrote a post titled “Photographers. Are you an Introvert or an Extrovert?” I wrote the post after reading a Time magazine article based on Susan Cain’s new book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. So intrigued was I by this book that I got myself a copy from the library. Well now I know why Quiet generated such a storm (pun intended). Susan Cain’s book is a tribute to introverts everywhere. She sheds light as to how and why the U.S. has become a country of extroverts, visits Harvard Business School to learn a great deal as to what kind of students make up its student body, and attends and gives an amusing observational account of a Tony Robbins seminar.

I’m probably throwing myself under a bus (career wise) for writing the next part, but as a teacher I was never a big advocate of students sitting in groups and constantly working together and the reasons why are better explained in Ms. Cain’s chapter “When Collaboration Kills Creativity”. In this chapter she talks about how open floor plans and working in groups in the workforce can actually stifle creativity. Her chapter on the qualities of introverted and extroverted leaders (hint: employers please read this chapter) is a must read. Ms. Cain’s book also contains the latest psychological research and neuroscientific information illustrating the biological differences between introverts and extroverts. She discusses the latest Wall Street Crash, Asian-Americans students who change their introverted style in order to fit in with their classmates and even professors. She also includes in her book poignant anecdotes of people such as Steve Wozniak, Eleanor Roosevelt, Warren Buffet and quiet leaders who fly under the radar.

For those of you who find yourself in a May-December relationship the chapter on The Communication Gap is a must read. Personally, I found page 230 in which she describes the arguing styles of Celia and Greg (a couple in which one is an introvert and the other an extrovert) hit the hammer on the nail as to what happens when two people who are on opposite ends of the temperament spectrum find themselves locked in an argument. If nothing else read this chapter. It will save you tons of money on therapy.

Quiet also talks about introverted children and how as a parent you can fortify and strengthen this quality. So many times it’s the extroverted kids that get all the accolades and many times the quiet types are marginalized. Also, in this day and age of big stakes testing that is taking place in schools and in which testing for speed and accuracy is surpassing deep, critical thinking skills I sometimes wonder how introverted children, who for the most part process information at a slower but by no means less accurate pace, fare out on these exams?

Extroverts, don’t feel left out in Ms. Cain’s book. She lets the reader know through her own personal accounts how extroverts and introverts complement one another and how we need both temperaments to make our world go round, but in the end, her book is about celebrating the strengths, unique perspectives and innovations of introverts. Quiet is a book that is long overdue, but thankfully Ms. Cain came along and in her quiet, graceful and articulate way gave us a book that is a must read on everyone’s reading list. For extroverts and introverts alike.

Dance of the Jellyfish

Posted on April 29, 2012

All images © Nareen Rivas

There are two specific geographic locations that I have very much of lately have wanted to visit. They are the southwest United States and Maine. I haven’t been to Maine yet, but when the opportunity to visit Las Vegas came my way I jumped at the chance. I normally wouldn’t plan a family trip to sin city, but after enduring cloudy Northeast weather for what seemed to me months on end my judgement I guess got a little muddled and I found myself saying yes to a week in sunny, dry, desert Las Vegas. This post is the first of my trip to Las Vegas. I decided that a trip to the Mandalay Bay Shark Reef Aquarium would be just the place to take Henry to (he’s too young to play the slots). I have to say the Shark Reef in general was pretty cool, but what really had me entranced were the jellyfish. Who knew? I could have stayed there all day. I loved watching them swim around as if in a dance. They reminded me of the ballet. Graceful, ethereal and beautiful. I hope you find them as lovely as I did.

Imperfect day

Posted on January 3, 2012

I love imperfect days. Imperfect days make the best pictures. We were driving along Route 9 (n) near Saratoga Springs. A deep fog was descending all around us and I just couldn’t resist taking this shot. Coincidentally, did you know there are 12 different Route 9s in upstate New York? The kicker is they are totally unrelated to one another. I learned this piece of information while stopping along a Route 9 pizza shop (hubby and I were hungry!). The newspaper article was tacked up on their wall (sorry forgot name of newspaper). I just love miscellaneous information. Imperfect days and miscellaneous information. A great start to the New Year…